How to deal with rejections effectively??

                                                              Rejections: Part of Life  

                 On regular basis we face one or other kind of rejections and we should know what are they and how to deal with it.   

                  It can be considered as one of the worst feeling that every one has go every now and then of varying frequency depending on individuals and also type of work they do, people they live with and surroundings.

                   Whenever someone rejects you , it does not mean something wrong with you. It depends of several factors such as your inter-personal relationship , reason of rejection (mostly misunderstood) and motives of next person.


                                                          

1. Stranger's Rejection : 

                        If you are dealing with someone who don’t know much or is just some stranger to you and you ask for an address or just wave hii or smile, but in return they don’t do the same. This kind of rejection is also the rejection and makes us feel embarassed that we were being too excited or make us stay in our comfort zone only. But does it really matter, they are not going to remember you and also not you do so just leave it as it’s not your fault but that person might be in different mood(something wrong happened with them). Don’t let these types of rejection get in your head but try better and mostly you will see results as everyone wants connection and feeling of being loved.

2. When some close to you rejects you 

                         It does have impact on our life majorly and hurts us. But instead of taking personally which most of us do , we might try to understand why did they what they did. If we try to understand other person it will make clear the situation (removing clouds of doubt and get peace).

For understanding people around us :
1. we can simply ask more convenient questions why they did so or we can understand by just simply from past experiences. Might be the case that the topic of rejection was the reason and not you or you disagree on some things.
2. Also there might be situations where there is no particular reason but every time person makes feel rejected to you, it this case we should understand what kind of person they really are. We might discuss with some common people that is this with particularly with me or everyone gets the same treatment.
3. Motives: if might be not aware of what they really are upset of and you are trying to get by different ways. If we really understand the reason why they are rejecting then we can differentiate getting rejected by person and getting rejected for a reason from person.
In short identify toxic people and stay away from them.

3. Environments Factors: 

                      Sometimes is happens that it is the surrounding situations which has made people to behave in certain way and some bad things impacting which are not in your control.
Also if you not participating actively in conversation (same as not trying to understand or value next person more likely they going to say no for anything you would ask them). Most necessary thing is to ability to communicate what exactly reason for it and having transparency and trust while building relation from both sides.

                        In all of these cases you don’t have to take anything personally as feeling or rejected just makes us weaker and affects various areas of life including emotionally and physically in turn as both are co-related. Even if they rejects you personally , it’s better to get away from then as it will benefit you only and there is always someone better waiting for you.

                          Summarizing understand human nature and study your relations and put more efforts in understanding people around you and you're gonna most likely will know what other people will reject and what they will say yes for.

 

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